The Bible has many references to forgiveness, but did you ever really think about how a forgiving mentality can get you through life much easier?
As I get older, I have come to realize that every time I can forgive someone, it makes me feel calmer, quieter and more relaxed.
From a practical standpoint, it is useless to blame problems we have on the way others have treated us in the past.
There is no school where parents are trained. They make mistakes; they have high expectations of their children. They sometimes say mean things without thinking. Years later, it only hurts us to replay these comments over and over in our minds. If we still blame our parents, we are still causing ourselves pain.
We marry for love and divorce because things were not as we expected them to be or perhaps because someone "better" or different entered our or our partner's life. If we play over and over in our minds the things that went wrong, it diminishes our lives today. We need to remember the good things and get on with our lives today.
Someone is having a bad day and they take it out on us. It is like they are transferring how they are feeling to us.
Each time we are able to forgive someone, it just makes us feel that much better. Yes, I know we do not always "forgive and forget" but if we move on from the hurt that person caused us, we can achieve great happiness.
10 years ago
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